So why, why do we hold onto to just the terrible?
Now, am I saying to just let people walk all over you, and let them off the hook? No. Not all the time. Be the judge and pick your battles. However, make sure that you address the problem with that person. By addressing it with that person directly, you avoid rumors, gossip, back biting, and other forms of hateful speech. I pray that everyone in their life has someone to act as their confidant and clear their head, get a second opinion. To be able to go back to the person who has offended you, state your peace and forgive each other. (For me that person is my husband)
Stop holding on to that grudge, and let it go. Whether you've had this grudge for a week, a month, a year, 6 years, or 20 years, let. it. go.
One of my favorite songs by Michael McLean is called "Let It Go" (yes this came out years before Frozen). See the lyrics below:
"There’s so much of life that can’t be lived
If you’re holding on to hate and anger deep inside
Let it go
It opens up the heart
There is a new day that’s hungry to start
Well you can’t change
What has hurt you so
But you will heal if you’ll just let it go
All that’s wrong in your life
Let it go
All that is worth saving
Love will hold you tight
Love lifts the burden
And love shines the light
Nourishes our soul
If it’s not love
Simply let it go"
I know all of this is easier said than done.
However, by allowing yourself to let it go, you're allowing yourself to be free. Free from the shackles of grudges and anger. You're freeing yourself to have more room for happiness, and love, and things that are so much more healthy for you.